When I became pregnant, I knew I would never terminate my pregnancy, so I did not have the testing done to check for chromosomal abnormalities. The only test we did do was a second level ultrasound to check the gender, and it indicated one weak marker for DS, a calcium deposit on the heart. That put our chances at 1 in 145. The doctor also checked the length of the nasal bone to check for a shorter one, which would indicate DS as well, but it was normal. We went home that day with a clean bill of health, so we thought, newly appreciative of the girl we found out we were going to have (my husband was hoping for a boy at the time.) Boy were we surprised when soon after the delivery we discovered that not only were we having a girl, we were having a girl with Down Syndrome. I wish I knew then what I knew now, because I would not have gone through the absolute despair I felt at having a child with this disability.
After spending the last two years of my life with this child, I've discovered that she is nothing like the stereotypes in my mind, and she is a "real" child, which I embarrassingly admit I thought she was not going to be. She is so normal it's ridiculous! Mina chases the cats and grabs their tails, laughs at us when we dance silly, throws a fit when she can't watch Barney and cruises far distances in order to eat Gerber Puffs! She loves "Itsy, Bitsy, Spider," chocolate doughnut holes, car rides (she signs 'more' when we pause in traffic!,) and meeting new kids. I'd say that is a very normal, typical American child if I do say so myself.
And yes, she does have therapy, and yes, she does take longer to do some things than kids without DS, but I would not trade a thing even if I could. She is our joy, and frankly, for us, it has now become Mina's world....We're just priviledged to be in it!